Don’t you feel more comfortable when you have things labelled? I do. I like to see order, it is in my nature to understand how things work. As an architecture student it pleases me when I can classify a building, when I can label it. I’m sure it happens to you too.
It feels comfortable, because it gives the mind a sense of security. “Now I know what that is, so it’s under my control.” Except that it’s not. Nothing is. If that illusion was to be taken away, it would feel devastating at first, but if you get through it, it does change the way you see things.Just trying to explain the difference in thinking I’m just not sure if it’s possible, because unless you’ve experienced it yourself, it all might sound like mumbo jumbo.
As the classical example goes, you can not explain someone what sweet feels like, unless he tastes it. Or being burnt. You can write a 2012-page essay or describe similar experiences and he can really almost get it, yet the real experience is nothing like that. The mind can really learn only from direct experience.
When you drop all labels and concepts, real uncertainty comes because the ego starts to fall apart. When you accept it, that’s just the beginning. Just assure the ego that this will really benefit it and it shouldn’t go in survival mode.
Well, I’m human, and I use my human mind. Do you know any other mind? Because I don’t. We will always use our HUMAN mind to understand the universe and to solve problems.
The physical mind can not understand anything. It just perceives, remembers and creates links based on what concepts you feed it.
All concepts that you use come from someone else. It’s all based on agreements – you hear concepts and pick up what sounds best, or what parents condition you to accept. The same is with responding to experiences. Nobody can make you angry, unless you agree to participate in the exchange of negative energies.
The physical mind dissolves when you die. No idea that you are having comes from it. Let alone the brain – it is just a physical structure that translates energy.
Some sources explain that the shift was supposed to be very dramatic, many people don’t realize that Earth is actually a conscious being of a kind (not as we conventionally understand it) and it can make decisions. Because so many people have awakened, the energy momentum that the Mayas read back then, has changed, population should be able survive this time. But the only certain thing is uncertainty.
This site lists the numbers for Help lines in the U.S and U.K but most countries have services like this.
Great, I knew there should be a service like that in the US, this can be of big help.
Another helpful method would be to take some sheets of paper and write down everything, as long as it takes. Don’t forget to save them for your life chronicles. Because most of us are so used to the idea that the physical world is so solid and real, sometimes we need to physically see what’s going on and not just keep it in our heads. Get it out there, in the light! This has helped me many times, as it stops feeling as if you’re fighting with the fog.
Carmen provided another helpful idea for putting it in a physical, sound form. It doesn’t help things become better – it helps you remember that they’ve always been – in a different form and way. Sometimes challenging, causing big and exciting changes in your life. You can not put in order your room if you don’t take everything out first, and scatter it all around.
So they said, a new slogan was born: Pay early, save a pigeon.
“Remember, none of your problems have power over you, unless you give it to them.”
Well put cmt.
I would like to say that this expression, as well as some others that I wrote, are quotes by teachers, as I am just a simple being with a bad practice routine. No names are cited, as I am not aiming at promoting anything. To each their own.
Hi and thank you for sharing.
First, I’d like to say I have had many such problems.
What most people are being taught by modern psychology is to try and get out of the depression as quickly as possible, think only positively, try to get rid of all negative thoughts. While sometimes helpful, this approach can be very stressful.
If we look at the experiences we are having, we can discover that they are all products of our mind. So we need to take care of them, because they are our own creation. It is like a mother, handling a baby. If the baby starts crying, the mother doesn’t try to silence it or force it to smile at all cost. She just embraces it and that is already enough for the child to feel better. She also remembers that although the baby is her creation, she does not own it, it is not her possession. Similarly, your fear, anger, depression, are not your “own”, they are just experiences that you need to take care of. The more you are trying to silence and ignore them, the louder they become – just like little children. Enjoy your depression, roll over in it, celebrate it. Look yourself in the mirror and say “Wow, that’s quite the awesome depression, so deep”. Let yourself laugh and smile at it.
I would suggest that you try some traditional vipassana meditation, because it is aimed at recognizing the problems, instead of running away from them. I would like to give you this video, because I myself am a buddhist practitioner, but these instructions can be (and are) practiced by anyone, no matter whether they are following a specific religion, teaching, or none at all. It is a traditional and ancient approach, and as it says in the video: without any spiritual mumbo-jumbo. Yet, the teacher that is giving the instructions is a monk in the Theravada school of buddhism, which is 2500 years old. Feel free to search for other types of meditation instructions.
Another type of traditional meditation (mostly spread) is samatha, it is aimed just at relaxing your gross level of mind, it doesn’t teach you how to look at the problems.
By practicing traditional meditation, you will be able to have a much clean, clear mind, without it being obscured with all kinds of bold thoughts, feelings and emotions. And being calm and concentrated, you can think of thousands of things that you love to do. Just follow your inspiration. Your physical mind is designed to remember and notice, not to create ideas, so don’t force yourself too much. Let your intuition guide you.
When you experience fear, it’s just fear, not “your” fear. Don’t attribute to yourself things you don’t own and don’t actually want. Remember, none of your problems have power over you, unless you give it to them. During meditation, a lot of negative thoughts and feelings may come, but that’s because you have been suppressing them for so long. “No, I’m not supposed to feel angry. No, I’m not supposed to feel sad.” Who says so? You are a free person and you are supposed to have the right to experience everything that you experience. Let them go and see how powerless they are, if you decide just to watch them: “oh look, fear”, “oh look, anger”, “oh look, an awful and scary image”, “oh look, a feeling of guilt that I feel fear, instead of joy”. Look at the experience itself, not at its content that your imagination exaggerates. It’s like 3D television inside your mind. For free, no tickets needed. It can not hurt you. Just like you are sitting on the bank of a river, watching its furious waters.
I would like to share that two weeks ago I had no projects to work on, being a freelancer. I got to the point of starvation, but I remembered that all situations, you create yourself – to teach you something. Many negative thoughts and fears came, but I just embraced them, let them come and go, and focused on whatever work made me joyful, started doing some new projects and searching for projects in different places. For two weeks I made $1,500. So be aware of the problems, but know that they are just there to teach you something and they will go when you are ready. Don’t be afraid to share sincerely that you are having a very difficult time and ask for (financial) help, you might be surprised how responsive some people might turn out, even “distant” friends.
For the record, I myself am not practicing in the Theravada tradition anymore, but in the Mahayana. My practice is Tonglen – inhaling all beings’ dark sufferings, dissolving it and exhaling light and giving them all my good qualities. Whenever I feel depressed, I practice it (please note that it requires instructions from a teacher). It’s not worth feeling bad about it. Acting on your joy is the only thing you can do.
Don’t be afraid of suffering – it cannot hurt you unless you react to it and label it as bad or wrong. It is neutral.
That’s all just to help you take care of your mind – because it experiences everything, yet we give it so little care and love. All the happiness is inside you, we are constantly being distracted by believing it’s out there. The more you search it externally, the more frustrated you become, because out there there is emptiness that waits for us to give it meaning and our joy. More and more people are awakening to this fact. Yes, I know you think “all happiness is outside, but I need external food and shelter”. I also thought that and even got a bit angry over meditation teachers. That is correct – we do need things to support our physical bodies, and our mind can help us very much, if we nourish it and let it express itself.
Don’t put yourself in a mental prison, you are a free being – its doors are always open. Walk. Be free. Enjoy. Be like a child. Be here, now. Forgive yourself. You are being reborn each second, the electrons in your physical cells are moving at the speed of light, your mental experiences are coming and going rapidly. Yet, your real nature is calmness. Feel it. You are a new, balanced person each moment, use that infinitely powerful freshness. The past is already gone and the future is not yet there.
Please, feel free to disregard all this if you think it doesn’t suit you.